Selfish public diss-ing on social media – How foolish it is.

Day in and day out I watch people interact in social media and I notice how often people yell “I’m tired of this, no one is ever here for me!” or the classic ones ‘Well I guess I know who my TRUE friends are.” … “Goes to show you who REALLY cares!” and the MANY other comments I’ve seen over the last few years and all because they are having a down day and they couldn’t get the attention they wanted. Well that is until that comment is posted as a status message. Then sympathy comes pouring in and it fills that “pity” meter and the person feels validated without actually explaining anything but only for a very SHORT time.

It’s nice to see people can talk and vent and feel OK to do so in social media. I see nothing wrong with it,
unless you’re being a total asshat about it. THIS is what I mean about “Asshat”

1. People who post that no one is ever there for them and “dis” their friends publicly…and the kicker is the ACTUAL reason for this “dis” – Because none of their friends wanted to “hang out” or get wasted/party etc… MOST don’t get that many of their friends have jobs and or kids or just don’t have the money but this person who posted this is ONLY thinking about themselves and being self-centered and selfish; so without an explanation on the post it’s not obvious to the general public that this person doesn’t t care that their friends have a life. All they want is the sympathy of others because they didn’t get their way, so ANY attention is better than none. To those who post shit like this for THAT reason. Sometimes the world DOESN’T revolve around you. GET THE HELL OVER IT!
2. Others who post about “Well I know who my TRUE friends are”. You know I saw this 3 effin times this week alone! THREE!!! and the reasons for this posting. Well after some digging here’s what I got.

One person (I will call 1) posted that message because another person (I will call 2) didn’t pass on a message to another person (I will call 3) who didn’t want to talk to 1 anyway. So because 2 didn’t want drama, 1 decided to be an asshole and publicly shame 2 for not letting 1 get their way. <<< PS: If someone doesn't want to talk to you. 1. Don't drag your friends into it! 2. Your behavior is probably the reason for it and you may not make it obvious to some but obviously 3 figured you out leave them the HELL alone! 3. dissing your "friends" like that will only see you friendless in the end… SMARTEN THE HELL UP!

The next example of public shaming of friends is because one person whined about not having any money. They tell everyone and vent. People listen. They make suggestions on how they can get cash, or just lend a sympathetic ear as they know how frustrating it can be to be broke. All of the actions of their friends is proper but this person decides that because no one went out of their way to offer them cash that their "friends" aren't "TRUE" ones because they didn't fork over the money that they were whining about not having. To those I say this. You know, Not everyone has money like you MANY of them live check to check. JUST because they don't fork it over doesn't make them a "bad" friend it makes YOU an asshole for being selfish and only thinking of yourself. Some have kids who are actually MORE important than you… GET USE TO IT, and some well maybe there's that possibility you've borrowed money before and didn't pay it back on time so they don't trust you anymore (Can ya blame them?) So to those who post because of money and whine when they can't have it handed over to them hand and fist… GET OVER IT the effin world doesn't revolve around you either!
My next favorite of the public "dis" is the "Breakup – you didn't side with me" Which goes like this.
Two parties split. ONE is clearly at fault for (whatever reason.. insert it here) the other is obviously upset… and the jerk/bitch of it all posts a HUGE lie in order to get sympathy. (A COMMON occurrence)
We will call them person 1 and person 2. Person 1 being the "ass" and person 2 the hurt one.

Now the gist of it is; this now split couple is known by many. They are very surprised to see this nasty posting about person 2 on-line and decide to back person 2 as being the victim… INCLUDING one of person 1's OWN friends. THIS is where the fun starts.
Person 1's "friend" is NOW usually publically dissed for not siding with person 1; usually because that friend knows what was going on and KNOWS the truth, most likely because they've either known person 1 a long time or maybe worked with them. What you see next is a "Oh I know who really cares" posting or "What are you sleeping/f&^*ing them now?" as part of a new status or a comment. THIS proves that person 1 is an EX for a reason. They will spew on about stuff that has nothing to do with the original friendship and attack that friend as much as possible. In the end the break up dis leaves the "Disser" not only single but usually minus a few dozen friends or so. My comments on that one…. BAHAHAH! You fool serves you right!

SOME of the public dissing I've seen of people though can be justified. Such as the idiot who gets drunk and drives. The fool who cheats and the one who gets themselves arrested for something seriously stupid. THOSE I can understand but if you HAVE to "diss" someone please make sure it's not because you're being selfish. It causes less drama in the end. If you can't… please make the comments fun, I really enjoy the entertainment and if you whine to me about it all, sorry hunny but I'm likely to call you out on it so remember not to ask me for an opinion if you don't want it.

Chow, Jaide


About Jaidemoon

Sylvia lives in Halifax NS in a well known neighbourhood called Spryfield Sylvia is also known in many writing circles as Lila Mosher. (her chosen pen name) She is in the process of getting her 1st book published, from a series called Steppin' Out that she's been working on for a few years (So far she's completed 4 books and the 5th one is almost done.) She's accomplished getting poetry published in the past but the most recent accomplishment was getting an article published in the Nova Scotia Advocate. (Something she's wanted to do for years) Sylvia has 2 children at home and is a altruistic lady who is forever trying to assist those in her community, she volunteers for the local food bank in her area and helps rescue cats though a rescue group she runs with her aunt called "Halicats". She firmly believes that kindness is a commodity and should be given freely. "I once was told as a teen... 'When storm clouds come rolling in, try to be someones rainbow.' I still try to do this on a daily basis." S. White. Sylvia Or Jaide in here has quite the following with her written works including a fan fiction series called Generation Ork. and several other stories that you can find on line. Check them out in the links on her blog.
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